The challenge with money is that, though I make more than her, neither of us makes a lot and all of our money is stuck together. I have no money that is at my sole discretion w/out her seeing where it goes. I think that may be a boundary I need to create...but that is something I have to do very carefully.
She's so very mad (rightfully so), but she texted something today that gives me hope...and I'm going to cling to hope for all it's worth. The text conversation went essentially as such (following a lot of her venting via text all morning, but this started later): W: I don't get it Me: It will never be an issue again. Starting today, I'm breaking the pattern. W:Right Me: Inaction will no longer be my way W: Whatever Me: Please don't take my word for it. My words are meaningless. W: I know. It kills me. I want you to figure it out. A trip with them by myself is not the same
It continued from there. I stayed on the future track, telling her that she doesn't need to believe my words, just watch.
The underlined sentences are the ones that give me hope. Way more than I had earlier today.
Me: 34 W:33 T: 10 M: 6 S: 6 D: 5 BD: 5/14 Still together(ish) Not giving up: 7/14 D talk has slowed, a lot. Gradually working on things together. Still separate bedrooms. Slow and Steady wins the race.
