The roller coaster analogy was from one of the wise vets here. (can't remember who)

Originally Posted By: daring
Then as he's talking to me he said again, it's all just a mess.


Ok, here's the secret to making it through this... You accept the above as your present reality, and realize it won't be like this forever.

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Then in my office he asked if I needed anything othr than a new husband-
Part of being the Lighthouse, is showing strength. My W used to tell me I should find a new W too, and I once told her:

"Don't you dare tell me what I should want. I can take care of myself, thank you."

And as you know she is still here.

Remember, YOU are the strong steady one in this relationship, H is the one spinning. Use this FACT to your advantage.

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He obviously doesn't want to let go completely as he's asking to do holidays together etc.


My W makes future plans for "Us" too. This is a good thing. Again, use it to your advantage.


Last edited by ForeverYoung; 08/03/14 06:43 PM.
M: A really long time.
Crisis: 5 years.
She's still worth it.

Life is never made unbearable by circumstances, but only by lack of meaning and purpose. -Viktor Frankl