OK, I need some quick advice. Tonight, my WAW wants to finalize the controlled separation agreement (type it out, print it out, get it notarized).

How eager should I be towards this process? Should I just let her do all the work? Should I show her that I am unhappy with this (because I really am)?

I agreed with her last week regarding the controlled separation because I wanted to not provide resistance to her need for space. We agreed on some basic principles, such as division of assets, agreement to live in the same house, agreement to allow each other to date other people, etc.

How do I make it known that I want to give her space, but at the same time, be clear that this is a choice that I'm not ultimately happy with? I also want to make it clear to her that I have no intention of dating anyone.

I'm really uncomfortable with how our evening will look and I'm afraid I may do or say something to derail myself.

Any advice would be appreciated. Thanks.

Last edited by mindsin; 08/03/14 06:02 PM.
M: 15 years
BD: 6/25/14
EA/PA: starts 5/14/14
11/30/14 - A ends
5/15/15 - D is finalized.
11/28/15 - Start of new LTR with a wonderful woman (and still going strong)!