Atsbaby, It sounds like you are making really good choices in how you are handling the sitch. Please don't underestimate the severity of your h's crisis. I did this... people often told me it would get much worse before it got better. I denied this thought to some extent. I am not saying that it will get worse for you, or that your sitch is like mine, but just be careful. I think being hopeful is wonderful. Be hopeful for the future. I held onto every little bit of hope with his contact. This is where I messed up. I should have let it go, totally. Don't try to read into all his contacts. Let it go. Let him make his journey, as you do yours, and be hopeful that it will come out good on the other end (which it will for you, no matter what!). Your h has some stuff to work out and is not thinking clearly or towards the future. He may talk like he is, but he is acting in the moment and will for awhile. Let him (which sound like you are), and take care of you. If only we could knock them in the head and have them snap out of it!
