interesting day today, I have watched h and observed...so this morning, I got up, gave the boys breakfast, hung out with them for an hour, then went to let h know I wad going home, he again thanked me for watching the boys last night, again no physical contact. I came home, pottered around, enjoyed the quiet. got a call from h asking if could drop off the pram, no issues there, I met him down the street, he had decided to go to a town close by to see if he could pick up some electric blankets for the boys, asked if I was doing anything and if I wanted to come along, I said sure, so off we go. halfway there we get a phone call from our old landlord saying how bad the house looked, that the cleaners we'd paid a fortune to do am exit clean had done a terrible job and that the new people were moving in today, so our trip turned sour very quick, dashed in, couldn't find what he wanted and had to rush back to deal with the house. I took the boys, and h headed to the house to re clean everything. I made the decision at that point to treat h as a friend, and any friend that was in the same predicament, I would try to help where I could. so I made dinner for all of us at h house, got the boys organised for bed, organised a sitter so I could go and help h with the final bit of cleaning, all of which he said he appreciated. by the time got there, H was pretty exhausted, running on little sleep and physically done, I think he must have got a text from ow as I got there as he looked p*ssed off and threw his phone across the floor. I chose to ignore it and just asked what I could do to help. We finally got the job done and we're standing out the front putting all the stuff in his ute. again h thanked me, and I him, gave me a hug and said he'd see me in the morning. so the observation part, today I wasn't falling apart and not detached as such, but aloofish, H backs the physical contact off and doesn't say as much. and the fact that ow is back from her weekend away is evident too, he just doesn't seem as happy as someone who is supposed to be in the start of a 'romance'(and I use that term loosely lol) I think h really does need to 'rescue' or to fix things, people, so when I'm being independent or not needing help (whether it be physically or emotionally) h backs off. How do you convey vulnerability without looking needy? I reading 5LL, I think h may be acts of service and or words of affirmation.... may be something to really look at.
