One of the people who used to post here, and with whom I am still in regular contact, was married to a classic narcissist. Their divorce was all about money. Post trauma of the bomb and divorce, she now prefers life without him. The vampire comment is very true.
Many MLCers appear to display NPD traits during their crisis - maybe because they share many of the issues that narcissists face.
My xh's childhood was awful and his life was filled with fear arising from that, I can now see. So he wore masks, and still does. His real feelings got stuffed so far down the back of the sofa I am not sure if even he knew what they were.
At the time of the bomb it was all about what he had missed out on. It was basically a great big 'Life is not fair'.
Poor coping skills coming from a screwed up emotionally deprived background and an on-going fear of being exposed as a fake . . .
And now fear that they have screwed up big tie, and have no idea how to put things right.
There is a bit of verse that sums up a lot of what MLC looks like from the outside
He couldn't say yes, and he couldn't say no, He couldn't say stay and he couldn't say go He wanted to climb and was frightened to fall So he stayed where he was and he clung to the wall
