Hi stacey, sorry to hear about your situation. It sounds really difficult.
The weekend away thing is super painful and irritating but try to have patience. I think the best advice came from a poster above who said do your best to try to seem confident, sexy and like you are doing well without him when he comes around.
As far as setting up a devious plan, I find that usually they do not work for me. But you know your H, is he a fixer? Will he try to come save you if something goes wrong?
In my case a few weeks ago I had some small emergencies. Normally I would have relied on my H for advice, comfort and support. He had contacted me while the emergencies were going on so I told him what was happening, and tried a little deviously to test and see if he would "rise to the occasion" and come support me in my time of need. He did not.
Of course I cannot know WHY he did not, maybe he wanted to or maybe he was glad he didn't have to. Who knows! But my point is, it didn't work for me.
Good luck and be strong this weekend! Hugs, LisaB
Me: 34 H: 30 M: 4 years BD: 6/15/14 He moved out 6/30/14 OW1: EA then PA after BD Now he's dating multiple OWs I'm over it and moving on.
