It sounds like your H was testing the waters with you when he started the friendly texting, etc. after your first meeting. My W did the same. Whether it was testing the waters to see if you were still available to him, or just generally curious as to what has been going on, there is no way to tell. All that matters is that he STILL cared enough to care what you were doing. So that is a good thing.
Yea you might have spooked him, but there is nothing to say he was not going to retreat soon anyways. My W kinda did as well, even though we did not have a fight or argument. Well, we DO have the issue of where the kids are going to be living for school, so that does put a damper. But back to you, I would lay off the questions about OW. Even the mutual friends. Because you cannot know what his real intentions are. Perhaps he is just lonely and wants a familiar voice/face to talk to. Maybe he is looking for an ego boost and is just looking for an old fling he knows will prop him up emotionally. I am guilty of that in my past numerous times when I was at the end of a relationship. All with women I knew would be dead ends.
You are not in an all that terrible position. He is still around, and even if you do end up in the friend zone, it might just be a stepping stone to R.
Keep up the good work.
Me: 42 W: 32 Married 7 years together 8.5 S1: 7 S2:7 Bomb #1: 09-16-13 Recon #1: 11/13 A discovered 04-03-2014 W filed D 05-19-14 but never served me I filed D 12-02-2014 S 05-31-14 Divorced 5-19-16
