Wow, your exercise program sounds quite intense, daring. Good job!
Do you ever hang out with the others in your group after a session and just talk? I've found doing this to be very helpful for me. Maybe even consider joining another "less intense" group. For example, a hiking or book reading group would offer much more time for verbally connecting with others... something we all need, especially when our spouse is orbiting!
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I think I may be too attached to H's rapid cycling.
You are, but this is understandable. Your goal now is to not ride his roller coaster. If he goes up 10, you should only go up 5. (or less) When he drops down 10, you drop less than 5, because you're detached... you are the lighthouse! (pssst... here's a little secret... he knows this!)
Back away... he'll still be there.
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he just has no idea how to dig out of the hole he's in.
None of them do. Yet, many of them will make it. Your goal is to outlast his crisis. It really is up to you.
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I'll keep the door open but no pushing- and keep working on my own sanity!!
I love this! You got this, daring.
M: A really long time. Crisis: 5 years. She's still worth it.
Life is never made unbearable by circumstances, but only by lack of meaning and purpose. -Viktor Frankl
