DBing after WAW then reactive EA by me...NO QUIT!

[25yearsmlc]

I just posted on your old thread...

here it is and it's after you said you "have no time to GAL"...


"I have more to read on your thread but wanted to comment on this^^^ before I forget.

TO re-cap----You are a teacher with the summer OFF, correct?

Okay...Just so you know, you have more time to GAL than 90% of the people on this board.

And without GAL, you will NOT detach, which will lead to more bad choices.

Without GAL, you will NOT change or become a man only a fool would leave, which really is your goal.

Yes, GAL is that important. We hammer it here a lot, b/c we know it works.


For GAL suggestions, let me mention some of what I did when we lived in the interior of Alaska, even in the winter. And I had 3 kids including a baby so it's hard for me to hear about how you are 'too busy' to GAL.

Inertia is actually the greatest enemy to GAL. It really is part of how you got here in the first place.

Overcome that, & you'll be well on your way to a happier more fulfilling life. IMO, the more you overcome inertia, the better your R's will be with all people, including your w.

I volunteered at a battered women's shelter.

I coached a girl's softball team, two summers (my older D was on it).

I was on the board of directors for Wrestling, (b/c our son wrestled).

I auditioned for community theater and met some fun creative people. I got cast, too.

I did stand up comedy (and yes, I still do it). I did a whole set once on a MLCs at the Improv. It went very well.

I learned to cross country ski, became a better shooter.

I Learned to hunt big game, to deep sea fish, & I got better at downhill skiing.

I learned to use a snowmobile ("snow machine" to Alaskans)
I loved riding.

Learned to fly a plane, and I got a pilot's license.

Edited a book. (The book ended up on the Best Seller's List. Who knew?)

I Worked out 3-4 times a week, and I really did get in excellent shape. Looking good made a world of difference to me.

(Plus, like you I needed to lose weight as I'd just had our last child. It was not easy to do, let alone in the dark, long LONG cold winters).

Saw a therapist and for some months, went on ADs.

Took a pottery class (very odd for me to do, but I truly liked it a lot).

Joined the Officer's Wives club after 15 years of active duty & ignoring them.

(Wish I had joined sooner! Met two women who are life long friends to this day.)

Joined a writer's group

Took a class in Conversational French

Took a class in Italian cooking

There is more, but I just wanted to suggest to you a few things you can do that do not cost a lot.

Other than pilot training, most of these ^^ activities were free, or quite cheap.