Does fear drive the crazy train?

[Ggrass]

What are they fearful of? Losing the LBS? Then why did they leave in the first place? I don't think my ex is scared of anything. He's a classic narcissisist.

I'm sure my ex is only afraid of having no money. That's where you will see his true colors every time.

WH

Actually wh this is what my ic was trying to make me see, that my h might be a narc.
Something happened in my life, It was always about him not me. I go to a funeral for a relative of mine and its about how he is missing out.

Narcs are fear driven, do not think they aren't. They just don't deal with it the same way.
They fear that people will expose them for the shallow fakes they are, it's all about keeping up appearances.

It's tiring and most do not sleep well. Im pretty sure my h used to deliberately punish me by kicking me in the back all night. With extensive reading, it's a classic narc trait.

Wearing you down both physically and emotionally to make you pliable and believe their every word.

The money thing is classical narc trait too, they see it as a proof oh how they are ok enough to be successful, and those who have a problem with them are just mentally sick people who resent their success.

Hence my h sees me asking for property and money for a settlement as a betrayal. Even if I only take 1/3 of what I might be entitled to.

Narcs are also fearful of loosing their supply of one way niceness, which is the lbs! They are often the ones who run and never look back as they do not have remorse or empathy.

They are more concerned with how it looks. Mine said "too late, I've told every one" in such a a way that it would be too embarising to say I made a mistake.

So of that is rambling as I find being eloquent hard in the written word, I spell terrible and often have to look for other words I can spell.

The classic narc line is your used up! Which is the way they see things in their head. Yes, I was in his words used up. They have bleed you dry for all your emotion, like a vampire.