Dealing with ongoing affair -which may now be over

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I went over to the RH just as she was leaving. I asked her, where are you going and she looked at me like what business is it of yours. I said what's with the look and she said she'd be back in a couple hours. She wasn't.

But I've got things to do.

Oh, I slept beside her last night.
I went over to the RH to help frame the prints she pulled out, for which she bought frames and mattes. Then we hung them in her office. These represent good memories of when we were in love and getting married. So in that regard is see it as a positive sign that she wants to look at them went working in her office.
When I first got there she hugged me and smelled my cologne. She came in for another hug, saying oh you smell good as she was sniffing my neck and shirt. (Mont Blanc Legend - thanks guys)
Afterwards she was getting ready for bed and asked me to fix the TV which she had recently moved across her room. So I fixed it, turned on one of our favourite shows, got undressed and crawled into bed with her. She said, what are you doing. I said staying for a while. She eventually fell asleep so I stayed. In the morning we had coffee and I rubbed her back and neck which she complained was sore because she didn't sleep well because I was in the bed. But she was good natured about it.

I can't figure her out. One moment she's hugging and holding me and kissing me and the next she's saying I can't do this. She still won't show me her phone. I get suspicious but then again I have a very fertile imagination and often it's way off the mark.

I have to stop obsessing about her and what she's up to. It's just so hard.

I have no intel into what's going on with the A. She said it's over and our MC seems to think it's over, but the process of rebuilding trust has not begun.

Back in early May I told her on Sandi's advice, that there will be no relationship talk until the A is over. When she told me it was over, we started talking about our relationship again, but she has never shown me definitive proof that it's over. Should I now ask her for that proof?

The other day at dinner she asked me if she's disappointed me. I told her I'll think about that. I've thought about it: I'm disappointed when a movie I want to see is sold out. To say I'm disappointed that she had an A trivializes the utter pain, betrayal and loss of a trusted friend that the A represents. Should I tell her that?

Just looking for some guidance here. Sandi? Wonka? Starsky?