Why do you think you can or should give advice to OMW?
You've got plenty on your plate.
Because using your young children as psychological weapons is probably the worst thing one can do in a WAS situation.
so YOU decided that
!) that is what they were doing, and you KNOW this, how?
And 2) YOU decided that YOU knew what was best to do, for them
and 3) YOU appointed YOURSELF as the person to do it, b/c after all, you're the one who knows what is best for all concerned -- and you are SO neutral and detached ---- AND you are a great example of......of what?
Who appointed YOU to all these^^^ tasks? Don't you see how[b] self serving, self righteous & controlling you sound here?
Are YOU working with an IC on these^^ issues?[/b]
The sooner YOU show change in YOU, the more likely there might someday be a chance for your w to reconsider leaving...but the more you stay stuck in your morally superior role, the more hypocritical you'll appear and the less insight she'll think you have had.
Frankly, the more you use this morally superior zero self awareness approach, the less insight THAT I think you have had.
Take a step back, put your dukes down and breathe....really review your behavior with some objectivity and when you can do that SOME, read what we are trying to tell you and see if you can glean our meaning more.
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
