Hi LT, I'm having the same problems with the D with my W. Last week after she and I disagreed about her taking some items from what is now my home, she said that we had to finish going through everything so she could take what she wanted. I told her that was backwards and that we needed to agree to everything and then she can come and get what we agree she should. She got really upset telling me that would mean making lists and sending them to the L's and if I wanted that I could pay her lawyer. I told her my L is payed for and she was the one who had to file! I know that her father is controlling everything about this D (she wasn't going to file until he "talked her into it" (her words). From the start of this D she seems to think it will; all be easy and she will get everything she wants and even the kids will be happy. She was in such a hurry at first and now she hasn't done anything but try and get me to let her have everything she wants. Like you I'm not going to do the work needed for this D and just let her sit back and do nothing. She hasn't sent her financials to my L, lied and said she has no retirement, all that her decree says is "Parties will agree to details later"!!!
I still don't believe in D as an answer. I haven't changed my mind, she did. If she wants this so badly she can do the work.
