afraid I have waited too long #3

[nit84]

Hasn't been much going this past week until W was out till exactly 1:00 am 2 nights in a row and then last night she left about 11:00 p.m. and came home at 7:00 a.m. this morning. I didn't say anything just went out to get my Saturday morning coffee at the usual time. She was in our bedroom so I didn't see her. When I returned a half hour later she had left again meaning she was only home for less than an hour.

I went about my business like it is a normal Sat Morning weeded the flowers, talk to a neighbor just things I would do anyway.

If I said I wasn't a little upset I would be lying but on a whole I'm fine.

A bit of mindreading here but it seems like the W wanted to make sure she didn't see me this morning or afternoon I'm thinking because she might think I would say something. I am not going to bring it up, it is her life and she can do whatever she chooses to do.

My Question is if she brings it up to try and draw me in to a argument how do I respond?

If she says something like did you notice I was gone all night and the reason why was(insert anything). How do I respond?

Very longshot here but if she says spent the night at a friends house male or female. Does this change the response?

She got her own cell phone a month ago and I haven't asked nor has she offered me the number. I didn't think W would call anyways unless she was in trouble.

She knows I know about OM and it hasn't been brought up in 4 weeks and that was by my W so she could deny it again.

At this point it doesn't matter if she stays or she goes to me but I would like it one way or the other. I was ordered to pay her support and with her new job so she has plenty of money to get her own place but doesn't seem to be moving in that direction at the moment.

If she does mention something about not coming home is it ok to suggest that she may as well move out because she hasn't really been staying here except to sleep for a few hours since last Weds?

I don't really want to but I don't know if have to in order to not let my W become a cake eater.

I am not sure she knows I am not ok with her and the OM. 5 weeks ago while discussing the possibility of an A. I told her that I loved her and could forgive the affair but the way I said it it could have been taken as I will love you no matter what you do.

I do love her but I do not want an open M so somehow when the opportunity presents itself I think I have to be clearer about my Boundaries when it comes to an A.

Looking for some answer to those questions and any other advice you may have. Thanks in advance!!