Today, SD19 who lives in H house, texted me asking about whether H smoked "weed" when we were together.....
Ummm, no.
SD19 is very concerned because the guy we knew as the quiet, meat-and-potatoes man, is now getting his groovy on every night and during the day on weekends. She is no saint in the behavior department, but I'm sure it's shocking to see your own dad behave like a teenager. She asked if he will get worse, do I think he will do harder substances, and could he lose his job.
I texted back, "First, I hate that you have to be there to see this stuff. But, yes, anything is possible. I'm sorry because this has to hurt you to watch him self destruct. It is exactly what they do with this illness. (I haven't said MLC to her. I took the great advice from this board, tho) He has and will continue to become a mirror image of who he was. He will do things you never thought in a million years he would do. He is becoming someone you won't recognize for a few years at the very least. Best to love him from afar, detach the best you can, and pray. You didn't break him, and you can't fix him. No one can. I'm sorry. This whole thing stinks for everyone."
She responded about the different personality:
"It's okay.. I feel like he's in a midlife crisis. Like all the sudden he's doing all these things and he's really cocky now like he thinks he's really good looking and his sh*t don't stink. And he just left to get a manipedi "
Wow. Mr. meat and potatoes getting a mani-pedi. Priceless.
SD19 also asked how long does this last, talked about how different he is, and also this: "Well now he's come up with a brilliant plan that he's gonna be a broker like grandpa".
After 20 years in his business, he's planning to change careers and become a broker.
I'm not surprised. There is an element of shock in the initial processing, but it fits the frame I have come to recognize. Idk hard to explain.
M44, H44, both M before M4 yrs, T6 BD 7/13 ILYB something isn't right with me H att suicide 2/14 S 4/14 OW disc 5/14 D final 4/15
