IF you feel compelled to intervene, which seems likely and ought to discussed with your IC b/c to me it just reeks of more manipulation and attempts to control outcomes, THEN refer her here.
Otherwise it just seems as if you are trying go to do as she is doing, to hurt your spouses to punish them...
OMW is in deep pain. Referring her here, is far more advisable than you telling her what to do. Seriously, we can handle it!
And really, as La Bug said, you have a lot on YOUR plate.
How are your 180s and GAL going? And did you say you finished reading the DB or DR book(s) yet? Make sure you do read at least one them, carefully and thoroughly. They need to be read at least once with great care and then later on you can skim. A lot of folks come here and only skim the book for quick fixes not really getting this approach down right.
You need to work this program b/c it works,
and when you mix it up w/other approaches that contradict or conflict with DB, (some of Dobson's advice directly conflicts, for instance) or if you do it only partly, you do so at your peril.
Good luck!
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