You're right again labug. If she asks me to go, and actually wants me to, I'll go. For my kids and the hope of having fun together. No expectations though.

Now, the bday gift...I'm convinced I have to at least get her something. But like a friend level gift. But something that says I know you. Even though I don't think I do anymore. I've been such a terrible listener over the years, I lost touch w/ my W on so many levels. And post blow-up over my EA she got after me about not doing anything like flowers or anything. I have to try something. Some kind of grand gesture...that's a180 for me. But what?

Me: 34 W:33
T: 10 M: 6
S: 6 D: 5
BD: 5/14
Still together(ish)
Not giving up: 7/14
D talk has slowed, a lot.
Gradually working on things together. Still separate bedrooms.
Slow and Steady wins the race.