WH, mine left " in the first place " to live a fairy tale with his ?soulmate?... He needed a change in his life and felt STUCK.. Time was running out and a wife and 4 kids were holding him back.. Tomorrow might not come and he wanted to have fun, party, travel, have affairs and stay away from responsibility like it was the plague.. ALL ABOUT HIM..
This fear was inside and his confusion began.. the negative effect of his choices started hitting him like tons of brick.. He wanted our blessing but he wouldn' t give us his?? Why on earth should we get to be happy when he was sooooo miserable?? His dilemma began.. his struggle is with himself. not me, the kids, the girl friend, work, God... He was lying, cheating, secretive, mean, abusive, withdrawn, trying to have best of both worlds without consequences.. anyway.. buttom line: I conducted myself with pride, self-respect, self-control, and I stayed true to myself so that my soul stayed clean and intact.. I did not choose self-medication which would have made things worst for me ( internally, emotionally and psychologically )
