Bets, OK, the intimacy part is really hard for me!! Last night was fun-it was cool hiking in the dark, wet, snow! Then we went to eat with this group of people.
At one point I got a little mad/hurt w/h. He & guy were talking about guns and H likes to tell ppl. the story about when he took me shooting and I put his gun on the grass. I didn't know any better-he emphasized that it was an $800 piece of equipment, etc. So I told h not to disbarage me, and that I felt really bad & didn't know any better. (Ok, i felt stupid). So, that blew over.
H is still in a lot of pain. The chiro. told him on Wed. to come back on Fri. Well, now h doesnt' want to b/c he is in MORE pain. I tried to explain that it may just have to get worse before it gets better & that Dr. told him it was going to take a few visits to get his back in order. I asked that he at least call them & discuss it w/them. I said that I agreed that dr. should have said, it may get worse first, or something...I want to make an appt. for myself and I'm half tempted to say, "can you call h and tell him his xray results are in and try to get him to come in?" ???
I'm starting to feel some insecurities. I tried to initiate ml, and asked if he was in too much pain and he said yes. I know that I need to put my own wants/needs aside and be understanding of him, but I don't understand! Just CALL the dr.??? I never have trouble asserting myself in these sit's so it just seems odd to me. And, I know that it will NOT work if I start getting all whiny and needy. So, how to maintain?
So, how to maintain? 
