Ox, you live in the same home but not in the same bedroom and I assume that it's a pretty big house, no. You don't need to be a jerk to her, but just go about your own business. That's it. It's really that simple. Why are you making this so hard? Ask yourself that.
I have decided to set a Big 180 for when she " returns" after OM leaves.
I realize that she is exhausted mentally and physically and has really fallen behind at work.
So my 180 is based on detachment but it's more to give her all the space and breathing room she is going to need.
- I will not pursue her - I will not start any conversation - I will listen to her with all my undivided attention - I won't talk about my issues or problems. - I will give her all the space she needs to catch up on work
The biggest is to allow her to clear her mind and think....
I know I used "I" a lot but since the OM has not given her any time to herself and she used to accuse me of being intrusive and a pain in the arse, the items I listed will help her as much as me.
I also am not going to shut her down when she wants to tell me where she went the places she ate etc...I need to help her to keep moving the OM into the BFF zone... Most of the woman I know feel that WW and he are like two girlfriends except WW does not know it....
