Still searching for clarity/thoughts on the b-day gift dilemma. I'm leaning towards giving her something I'd give a friend for a bday. Since that's all she really is. Something inside me is making me think she wants some kind of bigger gesture though, since I really haven't done that at all since She went WAW.
My other potential situation is if she decides, last minute, to invite me to Portland w/ her and the kids. I don't think she will, but I'd like to know how to react if she does. I really don't know what I would choose. Do I want to go to Portlsnd to go to the zoo and do fun things with my kids? Yes. Do I want her to see what life will be like doing things with the two kids w/out her partner? Yes, the kids are hard, especially out of town after a long car ride.
Thoughts on these 2 things?
I know it's tempting to want to teach someone a lesson but it's not our job really, is it? Choosing to do something because of the effect it may or may not have on another is like throwing darts. (unless you're a pro)
Do what's best for Joe and his kids.
Me 57/H 58 M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13
Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do. I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering. Caroline Myss
