I didn't say for him to NOT write to her. I just don't think him asking her for something, now, is appropriate.
Like you said, it was years before you sent your letter. AND in your letter you refer to mutual pain, which is likely appropriate in your situation.
But I don't see how that would apply here.
I DO think he needs to respond absolutely. (Which I wrote.)
I don't think there is substantive disagreement but I want to be clear with DB that the letter from you to your w, is a good concept,
but for DB ---word for word?---No I think the only piece should be his remorse, not any mutual reciprocal type of "we both did wrong" or "both had painful times"
b/c to ME, his girlfriend is the only aggrieved party, not DB. I don't see a lot of reciprocity.
But that's just MY OPINION which could of course be wrong.
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