First post, DENIAL was my HAPPY PLACE!!

[Shining]

T,
That's interesting what you said about being a nice client! Today's L didn't know how to take me, either, since I was not angry! I was speaking very matter-of-fact, logically, not emotionally. (Is that a small sign of detachment? Or no...). He was very familiar with MLC cases. He told me how crazy some of them have gotten. Also that most post-nups he has worked on were for some extremely wealthy clients that didn't want a D because they were afraid of their reputation being ruined in he newspapers....

B,
I'm sorry yours was so difficult. If I remember correctly, was your MLCer one of the more "mean" ones? Mine is still pretty mean, has mellowed some, but still spews and is in a HUGE hurry to sell the house. He fired the realtor already after 2 weeks. Your experience and advice are telling. This is a no-brainer.... Sigh.

job,
Everything you have told me in past posts has been spot on thus far. I'm listening and learning. H told me the one time he mentioned D that we could slowly separate things like car insurance and bills (already mostly done), and after that we wouldn't need to get attorneys bc they are "the only ones getting rich". H said he wanted it done fast. I wonder if that urgency changes when I file, simply for the sake of being defiant? Anything is possible.

G,
Yup. He's gone alright. Keep telling me, please. It really does help to read over and over, especially when it's about my own H, on my own thread. I can have a ridiculously clear point of view on others' sitches that I can't see in my own.

AJ,
I must go back again and read your thread.... I do remember much of the unbelievably destructive behavior you and the kids had to deal with, but the money part is foggy... I think I first started reading the threads to find stories of reconciliation, how-to get H back, then shifted to how to DB4me! I know I glazed over the money issues early on, due to, oh..... Idk.... Denial. I was a master;)