Ok Karen I have read the post now. I'll offer my insight. I am a combination of both you and your H. I enjoy sex way more than W but I am also very reserved in other areas of my life like your H.

with that said. I see a lot of things that have jumped out at me in your thread.
1. You two seem to do a lot of things without each other. it seems that you two are married but living on parallel lines instead of joining to make one line.
2. I get the sense from your what you have said that your H is like me and really enjoys spending time with you at home snuggling. It seems that you make plans and then he makes plans because you ask him if he is going out? Doesn't make much sense to me. I get the feeling from reading your thread that he does enjoy spending time with you, but (now this is just my take) it seems like he doesn't feel number one in your life. It seems that the two of you do very little together and that you seem to be going out almost every night of the week. I get the sense from what you have said about your H is that sometimes he just feels like relaxing at home as you said that sometimes he has made plans and then decides to stay at home. Have you ever thought of canceling plans when you hear that he is staying home to go be with him.
3. It seems like whenever you do something it is always with a club, or uncle, or family etc. I get the sense that he feels you two don't do enough things together. It also sounds like he is afraid that when you go out that something will go wrong, ie judmental behavior or him doing something that you won't like.
4. As for the sex thing. hey lets be real here if someone is wanting to have sex as much as you a guy would be crazy to not want it, especially if you are as good looking as you say. So what is the problem? I think it is pretty simple. Sex every Sunday night????? what the hell is that. Have you ever just jumped his bones for no reason? There is no planning sex, make it adventuresome. make it fun. Last time I checked it was not a job.
5. Like I said it really sounds like your H likes to spend time with you doing things with just you, i know in my M i have enjoyed the times just me and W have done things alone. When was the last time you did something for him. Bought him a small gift just out of the blue. Taken time to just be with him, in a quite way. I think you expect too much from him in ways that he cannot give. have you read the 5LL's. I honestly think he has felt he has showed you how much he cares, but you don't understand what he is doing to show you and he is withdrawin from R, because of it. I know I misunderstood what my W needed, and vice versa. I always heard well you have no feelings, well trust me on this one we really do have feelings and sometimes they are more fragile than a woman's. Men are pretty much raised to not show emotion and breaking that habit is very hard.

Have you taken a look at his family from a very honest perspective. What was his family like when he was growing up. how did they show affection. You say your mom taught you to use sex as a way to express your feelings. (which is always a good way) However have you really looked at his family. Maybe they used alone time together or some other technique that you need to identify and then maybe you will understand him better.

A M is two people being actively involved with each others lives. Like I said earlier, it seems that you two are two parallel lines that will never cross each other. The only way I see things changing is for one of you to start angling towrd the other person. Only when your lines truly join will you understand each other.

I don't get the sense that he is crazy, I just think you have fallen into the M trap, of not being involved with each other's lives. I am sorry this so long, but since I hadn't posted to you just wanted to give you my thoughts on your sitch. I will keep up with you.

I know you follow Bwriter's thread. i would like to make you the same challenge as I did to him. Do you feel what you are doing right now is working for you. Why not take 1 month and do a complete 180. If you normally go out with FF, change and do it with him. I truly feel he wants to spend more time with you, but needs some help from you.

If you will do this challenge and honestly post things you are doing different on here then we will be able to try to help you in a more in depth way. B has made great progress since he started doing it.

so what do you say. 1 month of 180 and daily inputs, Honest Inputs.

Are you In?

Dan