That was a bad text to send - you can't shame a wayward and have it work in your favor. All that judgment only comes across as controlling and she will further revolt.
However, nothing you said was untrue, and having sent the text, I don't see where an apology was in order, and that probably further weakened your position.
the apology IS needed for 2 reasons; 1) it's hypocritical as hell for THIS h to complain to his wife about anything she does with OM at this point; as he is a serial cheater;
and 2) for the reasons you cited above! To help his position he cannot come off as a man who has not changed AND OR who has a judgmental attitude, which is exactly how he comes across almost always.
get your focus off W, where you have no control, and get it back on you and your kids, where you do have lots of work to do.
And then there's this^^^....he does not work on himself or HIS issues for more than a day or two before he goes right back to stare at his w or OM
(or worse, involves OM's family). That is a multi-dimensionally bad idea. It cannot possibly help HIS own situation but it may drive OM and mind's wife into each other's arms faster - as it makes it harder for OM to go back to his own family!
What right does Minds have to hurt OM"s family?
AND it makes mind's personality look that much more punitive, hypocritical, controlling/manipulative--which it is, and out of control vindictive. None of which is attractive, to say the least.
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
