While you wait to see how things go with W (not likely to get better, but that's her's to deal with; you were asked to stay out of it, right?) you can still show your daughters how a healthy relationship should be. i.e. you are their father. They learn how men should treat them by the way their father a) treats their mother b) treats them and c) how he treats other women and people in general.

Does that mean you have to acquiesce to your W's demands and assaults? Nope. You can, and should, stand up for yourself. In part, because you teach your daughters how to handle this type of thing in life. They'll be affected by it at some point in their life either themselves or through somebody close to them. But they will learn how to deal with people, how to live their life, through watching you and how you handle things.

Just like they always have smile

Be you. Be a father. Be a leader. The rest will fall into place and you can deal with it when and if you need to.

The divorce courts of full of people who talk about how their spouse "suddenly" changed. Your spouse might become a friendly person after this. Not likely, but then again, she's changed/changing. This might be the event in her life that helps her to finalize some of the issues she has and break free of the past depression etc. One could hope that happens. Hope for the best, right?

In the meantime, you are the parent. There is no other parent for your daughters for now. Not that they will recognize. But that can change and hopefully will. At some point. Deal with it differently as you need to.

AJ


"Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter" MLK
Put the glass down...
"Yesterday I was clever so I wanted to change the world
Today I am wise, so I am changing myself."