update:

Last night H got stuck at work a little late. By the time he got home he didn't want to take a shower and come meet me for din./bday party for my friend. I was being understanding, but I felt a little disappointed.

I called him as I was leaving and he said that he, his aunt &friend, mom, and his cousin from out of town were going to din. He would call me when he knew where they were going. I met them there. H was being tired in general and not very talkative on the phone earlier.

We went home, I had horrible indegestion, and he said his back was really hurting from work. SO, again, I just let him be, was compassionate (I think), we went to bed, I gave him a kiss or 2 and he fell asleep almost immediately!

This morn we both woke up early. I asked if he was mad at me for something and he said, "no, why?" I just told him he seemed a little distant. I was really trying to not take it personally, figure he's in pain, tired...So, mentally I tried to remove myself from being the victim and initiated . It was fine, we snuggled some, but I still got this feeling he needed space or something??? So, I backed off, he got ready and went to work.

I get really insecure in this situation, but felt much better about it last night & this morn. Typically, I would get mad at him (in my head), express disappointment, assume that he wasn't interested in me, think he is lazy and not putting effort into our r, etc. But, I really tried to de-personalize it and be ok with it. Not exactly how I want to spend Friday eve, but we were TOGETHER. He could have been out w/the guys, etc.

karen