At this point, my most pressing concern is her b-day on Sunday. One of her complaints and a 180 I need to do is giving better presents. I've already gotten her something good from the kids, so that shows her something. Now I have to decide what to do from me. Do I give her nothing since she doesn't want to be married and that would be the most detached thing to do or do I get her something to show the 180?

I'm leaning toward getting something...I think that's what she expects least. I didn't do much for her on Mother's Day (right after BD) and she was pissed about it. Trying to weigh 180 vs going dim for LRT is hard.

Me: 34 W:33
T: 10 M: 6
S: 6 D: 5
BD: 5/14
Still together(ish)
Not giving up: 7/14
D talk has slowed, a lot.
Gradually working on things together. Still separate bedrooms.
Slow and Steady wins the race.