help me i am new here

[twinmom]

To answer your last question honestly I don't know if I would take my H back, but if you haven't read my thread(s) my H is a special kind of a$$ hole......

I would agree with Chuck, stay dark and work on yourself. Find new hobbies where you can socialize. Maybe a men's basketball league or softball??

You need to determine if you truly love her or just feel a duty to take care of her. My H is sleeping on my couch and says he no longer wants a divorce for financial reasons because he wants me home with the kids. And I know he feels super guilty about some of the crap he did.

I don't want him if he is only with me out of duty/guilt. My needs will never be met. You need to really decide what you want (not just what will take away the pain you feel now) and make yourself better. Volunteer somewhere, take part in charity events. Word will get back to her about what your up to, just make sure it's good gossip THAT will make her attracted to you.