Hi all, today is my 39th birthday. The Happy Birthday wishes are pouring in over FB and text, and I'm humbled, but I also wonder what all these "friends" would think if they knew I was a cheater and a liar.

I know it probably drives my Ex crazy seeing people "love" me without all the information. I've contemplated posting something open and direct about the affair on FB so my whole world has all the information, but that feels oddly self serving.

Any advice on what is appropriate disclosure? How do I avoid my ex thinking I'm just "burying" the truth and letting people think in this awesome guy, when she experiences me as a total villain who doesn't own up to his sh1t.

DB

Me: 39 - W: 35
Together: 2 years, no kids
My Affair: 1.5 years
Affair ended: 4/9/14
Affair revealed: 5/19/14
Last Contact: 8/2/14