No, it's not, but if I do a better job of listening, understanding, and owning, she may not fly quite so far off the handle. Again, I can only control me, and I gotta do better at that.

I'm stuck w/ her b-day on Sunday. I got a good present for her from the kids. Gift giving is a much needed 180. However, I'm in LRT, so do it get her a gift from me to show that 180 at the risk of pursuing or do I let the kids' gift show that change and not pursue w/ a gift from me?

Me: 34 W:33
T: 10 M: 6
S: 6 D: 5
BD: 5/14
Still together(ish)
Not giving up: 7/14
D talk has slowed, a lot.
Gradually working on things together. Still separate bedrooms.
Slow and Steady wins the race.