Blindsided and lost

[Georgiabelle]

I'm so sorry you feel that way. You are not a failure and this is a process.

Yes, telling your kids will expletive. No doubt about that. When we told our kids (all 3 under 10) that we needed to tell them something, they asked if we were having a baby:( This was completely out of left field for them. It is heartbreaking to see them in pain and there is no way to sugarcoat that. However, they are doing surprisingly well for the most part as their Dad is definitely going through something major. I can't recall how involved your h is but just know that could change. Not to be a downer-just realistically.

Please protect yourself financially. While that is great that your h has offered to pay for everything, please know that could change. You must take care of you.

In regards to OW, I see varying opinions on this and this is mine. Don't waste much energy on her. I can't tell you it will when or if it will end although she isn't you. She doesn't have kids with your h and she doesn't know him like you do. Whatever goes up must come down.

Hang in there and be gentle to yourself. You are stronger than you know. You will see:-)