I am the prize

[ForeverYoung]

Hi Daring. I’m sorry to hear you were feeling ill. I hope you are doing better soon. It must have felt nice that H showed concern for you.

I know firsthand that the stress of our sitch can drain us, and cause or amplify physical ailments. There was a period early on where I was seeing my doctor for several unexplained aches and pains… and I’ve always been a very healthy person. Please take good care of yourself. What is your exercise program? Good job trimming down. Trying some new activities may help relieve your stress, especially if it involves others. Staying active and meeting new people has really helped me.

But he (H) seemed almost mad. I even asked him and he said no he was just worried and has not been sleeping
well himself so he's not communicating well.

Even though he still cares for you, dealing with anyone else’s problems is just too much for him right now. Remember, he’s buried alive dealing with his own schtuff. Very confused, and hurting badly. (thus the not sleeping well)

I think you’re doing well. Just continue to give him space, and let him see that you are more than ok.

I wouldn’t read too much into the strange text. He’ll say weird stuff here and there and then not mention it again, or change his tune later. Our MLC spouses don’t love themselves, and can’t see how we would love them. My W used to tell me I should go find a “real W”. Even point out candidates to me! Thankfully, these comments have long passed.

he also said in regards to me not letting him know something going on with S16 until later

Try to meet his needs, but in a reasonable manner. Don’t knock yourself out over it, because it can be a moving target. Just stay your course. You’re the lighthouse, remember!

He definitely keeps mentioning all the "emotional stuff" he is processing and seems to need to go through.

This is awareness, a very good thing! Be content with this and believe that he will make it through.