labug, see my post from Wednesday (7/30) night, it explains what happened. At least the issue that led to the fight in which boundary setting failed. I tried to calmly ask her to stop talking to me in an aggressive way and that I needed to calm down to have the conversation. Then I tried to remove myself from the situation before I blew up. That's when the whole bedroom door thing started. So, yeah, my initial try failed. I learned that, before I try to set up a boundary, I need to be sure it isn't some actual crappy behavior on my part that she is right to blow up about. If it is, I should just face the music.
Oh, believe me, I won't be making any R talk. How do I respond if she starts talking D again? Any other R talk I think I can handle.
She's taking the kids to Portland for her b-day Sunday and Monday. I'm looking forward to it for a couple of reasons. 1) she gets to experience how hard they are w/out help; and 2) I get some time alone to work on me...read, go to the gym, try to do something around the house she doesn't expect.
Me: 34 W:33 T: 10 M: 6 S: 6 D: 5 BD: 5/14 Still together(ish) Not giving up: 7/14 D talk has slowed, a lot. Gradually working on things together. Still separate bedrooms. Slow and Steady wins the race.
