The night W bailed, I called her. I was calm at the time, but basically said WTF, you aren't being very considerate. She said she was expecting me to call her, (I know, you can't listen to anything she says.
I said I still had her clothes in my trunk. And agreed that I would drop them off at her house after my dinner was done.
I end up calling her after my dinner, and she started saying that is was to far out of the way for me to drop them off, and I became very frustrated about being jerked around (I think this is my codependancy coming through). Our discussion turned sour and I should have just stopped the conversation there.
It escalated with both of us using control talk, me just trying to give her the jeans, her just not wanting to deal with me.. I just wanted to do something kind vs all the pain that has been inflicted on both sides. It was short sighted on my side.
My last button got pushed, and I told her to stop, she is ruining my life. shortly after I hung up on her. This is the first time since the separation I have verbalized to her any affect of her actions on me. It felt good, but I did worry that it will have a negative affect.
(I'm going to post the conversation of yesterday into the next post)
Me: 35 Her: 33 D : 16 S : 9 Together: 14 years Married: 12 She left 4/14/2014 Separated: 5/25/2014 OM Confirmed 7/2014 She filed 8/7/2014 I Filed 10/21/2014 Divorce final 2/12/2015
