Baby steps, patience and uncertainty

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We had the appt with the new guy (who looks about 12!!!) but I could see that S21 interacts comfortably with him and respects him. They're doing some really difficult work and there is progress. Baby steps, patience and being comfortable with uncertainty

I love that when S21 was uncomfortable talking about certain things with H and I in the room, he said "I'm really not comfortable talking about that with them (H and I) here."

I've only learned to set boundaries in the last 4-5 years. (Anna Katherine, Pia Mellody, thank you!)

I'm in another online support group for parents, I mostly read there but one of the other moms wrote a lovely post to me that I still have, and reread. This is a part of it:

What has worked for me, is letting go of any attachment to outcomes or end points. It's a long life. He'll get there - where ever there is. I can't see the magic formula that will get him from here to there, but I know he is able.
It IS up to HIM, not me. I "simply" support the process, and try not to lose my own mind along the way

On the M front things are as good as I let them be. Does that make sense to anyone?

I've found that I can be angry about something and not let every angry thing spill out of my mouth in that moment. I can sit with if for awhile, let the heat pass and then enter the conversation that needs to happen, in a loving way. Really, it's doable. The emotion is the emotion and it will pass if I let it.

I'm trying to make pause, relax, open a habit.

It's raining in the desert. That's a good thing! How about at your house, Crim?