My IC said the combination of D talk, an extremely stressful life event and alcohol was not a good combination.
My IC told me the same thing!
Even tho it feels like crap, I think you're doing fine.
I think proceeding on with your life is what you continue to do for now. After all, your life is continuing with or without you.
Why do you think he's "messed up" "in crazy land" right now?
What was missing in your M before?
25 has an equation Time + consistent changes = change they can believe in (I think my math is right )
My thoughts are you, stay as far apart as you can while H is in the "I don't love you anymore phase" and work like crazy to get your act together. Then when you are together again (and it has to happen, even small exchanges) they might think "Wait, this isn't the person I left. What's up?"
And then they begin to investigate further.
The sticking point is the changes do have to be real. It can't be an act. So I guess it's the same equation, just in story problem form.
And there's something uRworthy says, you have to love them enough to let them have there life, their journey.
Good luck.
Me 57/H 58 M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13
Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do. I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering. Caroline Myss
