I have a feeling that is the draw of having an affair. Right now she is getting the affection and touch she needs, and why would she give that up? She seems to have the best of everything and you are the only one losing. I feel the same way.

I just try to remove those feelings, try to realize that this is not the person she wants to be and know she is hurting too (even though the affection she is getting is carrying her through).

Sex, for me, is for a good relationship. I try to remove all desires until that is back. It is very difficult.


Me-45 W-44
S21, S18, D15
T-27, M-21
BD Jan 2014
PA revealed March 2014
In-house separation - April 2015
I filed - Aug 2015
She moved out Oct 2015