Your right on not worrying about her or the OM. It's very tough to do, but necessary I know. I'm so looking forward to my vacation, that getting caught up in minor details seems pointless.
Today she was late with meeting to exchange kids, starting crying, and was just generally a mess. As I've noted before it's tough in this situation to not rescue her. I imagine her life is very hard right now. I know mine is.
Three days till I'm gone, can't hardly wait to be drama free for two weeks. Best detachment ever.....