I had another coaching session with Chuck today and it was well overdue. I postponed it for three weeks out of hopelessness and impatience. In those three weeks a lot of negative thought patterns returned and sought refuge in my head.
I choose to act "as if" until I find out otherwise. Yeah, there's overwhelming evidence but there's also just as much stuff to counteract them. This is tough because we're nearing our closing date and I'll be back home in just 5 short days. I haven't seen the house since they started on the construction and I'm almost certain it's complete. Oh my double wall oven that I may never get to use.
I texted him today to see if we could set up a time to plan when we will finish splitting our stuff. I said "when you get a chance today I'd like to discuss how we can proceed with accomplishing the items we discussed last week." He called me back shortly after I sent the text. He claims that it would be his only opportunity to talk today. So I told him that it did not need to happen today but we can agree on a date that will work with both our schedules. He suggested tomorrow evening but I told him that I have plans to go out. His response was "oh, with your brother?" I said "oh no just with my friends." Then I said that maybe Saturday would be best if he didn't have plans. He agreed.
The convo took a surprisingly positive turn. We discussed some stuff about the kids and my son living with his dad. H says he'd like to talk with my son's dad so he can exchange info and his experience. It was a perfect opportunity to validate and so I took it. We ended on a lighter note today and for now it's enough.
