MLP is giving you good advice. It is really difficult to accept that you cannot control what the WAS does, but you have to accept it. Setting boundaries are good, but boundaries should be for your/your children's protection and not as a means to control the WAS. That will only drive them further away. Been there, done that!
I know how hard it is to watch your WAS leave to see the OP. Been there, done that, too. But you can't let them know it gets under your skin. That will only make the OP look more attractive and you less desirable.
In your shoes, I would tell her I was going away to spend my free night without kids with a relative or same-sex friend(s) and would see her the next day. Then I'd do it - turn the tables on her in a safe way (no OP involved). And if I didn't have a relative or friend to visit, I'd check into a hotel and find something enjoyable to do with my free time. It would probably be a long sleepless night, but at least I wouldn't be letting her see how distraught I was. That's not necessarily for everyone's sitch ... but, just a thought.
Listen to MLP. She's giving you good advice.
Me: 59 and holding H: :53 Me: 1 S, 1 D, both grown M: 19 T: 23 BD: 9-23-2013
