U-Turn, I'm curious about the other way around, too. You might want to see if the library has a copy of Sally Conway's book. It looks like you can get it on Amazon. (Women in Midlife Crisis, by Jim and Sally Conway).
Sociologically speaking, I understand it's much harder for men to accept their wives having an affair....I wonder if that's simply because the media has shown us over and over again men having affairs. It's sort of a dirty little accepted truth that it might happen, this sort of dalliance. Men probably have the same emotional beating of feeling "less than."
Ultimately, the affair isn't about you. It's about your spouse. And broken attracts broken.
The thing that has astonished me about this whole journey is how similar the stories are. Sorry you have to be a part of this club. I've read tons about it, which has helped me (I just became academic about the whole thing). I'm hoping that it will carry me all the way through to the other side and he and I can have the stronger, more fulfilling marriage on the other end. That would be awesome, because honestly - the marriage before was pretty darned great! For now, I'm working on my issues....we'll see how he does on his!
