She did WAW, then I did EA, now I'm DBing...poorly

[Joe1981]

Thanks labug. I am realizing that my issues do not need to be anyone else's. That I don't want to start or regain friendships based on this, but based on my new stronger self and interests. I want my W to see me being my best self, but more importantly, I want to become the best me I can. I'm counting on all the great people here to help keep me on track and to listen to me grumble on the bad days.

Journaling: Things feel really normal today and a lot of yesterday. While this is a positive because there isn't any D talk and/or arguing, it is also a really sad realization because it shows me how weak our marriage had become. If this behavior is what our marriage has been like, no wonder she wanted to divorce. We talk some, worry about the kids, and after the kids go to bed, we're just both in our own world. Only difference is the last part, now we're actually in different rooms after the kids go to bed. That we have only slightly less intimacy now than then is shameful. OK, well at least this provides some clarity.