A 2x4??? For what??? For expressing your feelings? No way lady…not from me!
Okay, it looks like we have some solvable problems here!
Have you ever heard of a SAD clock? Me neither…but Betsey has! She was looking at getting one for her H. Might be worth the 100 bucks…check it out!
Hmmm….proving yourself to H….let’s see…what can I say to that….oh, I know!! NO!
Karen, if you’re trying to prove yourself to your H you’re jumping through hoops. And jumping through hoops only makes you look silly and desperate for attention. Pam and I made the promise to put our hoops in the closet – please do the same!!
If you make the changes inside of yourself they’ll show through to the outside. You will have opportunities to SHOW your H that you have changed, but you cannot create those opportunities. If you live your life in the new way he will see it. Once you have his curiosity piqued, you’re in. By trying to prove something, you’ll become a prime candidate for resentment all over again. Prove to yourself that you are worthy…the rest will happen.
Time for a pro and con list!! Pros on the marriage and cons on the marriage. If you are trying to sabotage this union, the first step will be to figure out why. If the why’s are fixable, you can do that. There is a lot of hope in your situation Karen, I promise you that! I know that it is frustrating not to see the changes in him after doing all this work…but the important thing is to see the changes in yourself first and trust that you have what it takes.
Pros and cons….Ready….GO!
"It is not easy to find happiness in ourselves, and it is not possible to find it elsewhere."
--Agnes Repplier, writer and historian
