My understanding of MDU's sitch is that her husband has withdrawn from the reconnecting that was going on, but that she doesn't have any firm information as to why, if the A with the OW is definitely rekindled or if he's thinking things through/balancing his options owing to the new situation.
Also that the change to the situation was only a couple of weeks ago.
Also that at no point while they were reconnecting was he moving at the pace that MDU wanted.
Also that the entire scenario has been in play for a relatively short period of time.
And she's talking about throwing in the towel and filing for divorce now based on a stack of unknowns.
I'm not arguing against having contingency plans. I'm DEFINITELY not accusing MDU of being overly emotional or irrational. I'm just confused as to the urgency.
MDU, I'm sorry if this is a hijack. I've been relying heavily on the advice you receive for my own situation and I want to make sure I'm understanding it clearly because I feel like every time I weigh in that Starsky shoots me down. If I'm wrong, I'd REALLY like to know why.
Thanks.
Yes, you have it correctly, Maybell. I would -- and do -- advise ANYONE whose marriage is at the point hers is to have wise, basic financial and legal contingency plans in place. I think all the more so in mdu's case since she has shared with us that the ABSENCE of those adds to her already off-the-charts anxiety levels.
It's like seeing an atty. It doesn't mean you're pushing for divorce; it just means you're gathering knowledge, and getting your ducks in a row, just in case.
