It seems that we do have very similar feeling and situations.
Last week I went through the situation of W going out of town over night for business and knowing that it is a strong possibility of OM being there. It is so hard to let go, but I did (so far). The articles about MLC explain a lot and gives much perspective about what may be happening with her.
It's a hope that the pain ends quickly - but it seems unlikely.
Me-45 W-44 S21, S18, D15 T-27, M-21 BD Jan 2014 PA revealed March 2014 In-house separation - April 2015 I filed - Aug 2015 She moved out Oct 2015