Quote: Ok, enough whining? I know Sage is right. I know that all of you are right. I even paid $130 that I barely have to have Joann tell me what is right. So why do I keep doing what i KNOW is wrong???
Maybe you are doing what you know is wrong because it FEELS so right at the time?
Quote: When I say I have told him what would help-you said he prob. doesn't "know" what to do, when I have given him several examples!
I know you have! So have I! But...I'll tell you what. I consider myself a fairly smart person, but if someone approached me with a calculus problem and said here, learn this. If I tried, but couldn't figure it out and then they handed me some examples...well, I can almost guarantee ya that I'd still be sitting there going WHAT?!?! over the calculus problem. To some people, emotions are calculus problems. They just don't get it.
HOWEVER, it does not mean that they can't learn! Yet, only motivated people learn. So...we're going to have to motivate this man. Hint, he is not very motivated by demanding, yelling, screaming and crying...
The horse is dead, the stick is too...guess its time for something new! How's that for a poem? Poem gone plan could go something like this...
Instead of "you rotten disappointing cretin, why can't you just do something for me for once?" you say..."thanks for a great evening, I had a lot of fun. I'm not tired, so I think I'll [insert what you can and will do]. If you would like to join me, you're more than welcome..." and then do it and walk away. Try it...peak his interest...
No law in the land says you have to lie there and try to read and toss and turn and make the man feel guilty as sin because he wanted to go to bed. I understand disappointment quite well...really I do...but if the horse is dead, its dead!
NO ONE is saying that you need to be begging for forgiveness! Lordy, where did you get that? No, this is hardly all your fault...nor is it all his. But you are the one with the tools; do you see where this is going?
Now, here is some food for thought. This H USED to be active and vivacious and full of life. Now, he sits around on his duff with a beer in one hand and a channel changer in the other. Hmmm...lazy bastard? OR depressed man? Someone had to really whap me upside my head with that 2x4 before, and then I saw it in a whole different light.
Karen, welcome to the rut. I am thinking that you need some new goals to boost you out of it. What do you think?
Okay, rip rip rip...
"It is not easy to find happiness in ourselves, and it is not possible to find it elsewhere."
--Agnes Repplier, writer and historian
