Upside Down You Turn Me

[sage]

Ok, enough whining? I know Sage is right. I know that all of you are right. I even paid $130 that I barely have to have Joann tell me what is right. So why do I keep doing what i KNOW is wrong???

karen

It probably wouldn't hurt to do some serious thinking about the answer to the above question.

I was gonna post something earlier but got sidetracked...it was going to be that I used to think very much like you do...that I was doing everything in the r and that if I stopped nothing good would ever happen. But the bomb dropping made me take a giant step back, stop pursuing, stop always needing to be in control, etc.

I think you know from my sitch that there is NO absence of social activity with h....and he makes probably most of the "plans" now.

THEN I saw you write:

He wasn't always like this. He used to be more expressive, romantic, emotional, & compassionate. I know he HAS it in him. And, a lot of our ML is great-a lot of passion, and he really takes care of me. I try to take care of him too, and I think why not do what feels good more often?

Sigh.

He has it in him. and you're not letting it get out.

HOW?

By ALWAYS being the one to make the plans AND by expressing disappointment when he does do something.

WHY bother letting it out, he must think? There no room for ME to do anything and when I do it's not good enough.

another thing....

you're making all kinds of leaps and ASSumptions about your worth based on his activities.

You said something like "I've told him what I want and need and he still doesn't always do it. Aren't I WORTH it to him."

Ahem....how about "I've told her what I want and need and SHE still doesn't always do it. Aren't I worth it to her?"

Sage