Saving my marriage by focusing on ME (Part 2)

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Here is why I realize that I have to detach more:
To protect Ox!

Last night at Dinner S21 came into the conversation.

She said she knows hes upset about what is going on, but

"He has to grow up"

"Don't I deserve to be Happy"

I looked at her and commented " So all that matters is your happiness? not the boys or mine or our family"

All she said was "Come-on your Happy Ox"

I have been warned that with WW its all about them but this was proof in the pudding.


Also gives me reason to really avoid most conversation with her. Not in a Jerk type of way.

My wife made some similar statements during her affair. When told by her brother how horribly upset her parents were about the whole thing, she coldly said "Well they just need to get over it." And similar statements about the older kids, who knew about her affair.

It's entitlement. Affairs are initially ignited by resentment, and then FUELED by entitlement.

Now I get the entire entitlement thing I keep seeing on these DB boards.

Someone told me for some reason all my WAW resentment over her own life her own shortcomings are directed at me.

I think if she spills coffee on her blouse while in Antarctica she would blame me!